Sex is Still Taboo?

Today, I was contacted by a reporter doing an article on “the lifestyle”.  She wanted to know what it entails and what the scene is like in Vancouver.  I found myself getting into an interesting discussion about labels and stereotypes.  Why is it that couples simply can’t fulfill their sexual fantasies without being negatively labled a swinger, a kinkster, a freak, a slut, a sex addict, a lifestyler, a nympho…and the list goes on.  It’s no wonder we’re so afraid to discuss our fantasies.  God forbid if we do, we get laughed at, chastized, and left to eternal damnation.

Wouldn’t it be liberating if we could actually talk about sex openly?  Especially with our own partner.  But many of us can’t because society has taught so many of us that sexuality is Taboo!  You don’t talk about it, you certainly would never indulge in anything other than missionary position, don’t even think about self pleasure, and quite frankly, don’t have sex unless it’s to procreate.  And then, once you’ve repressed your sexuallity down to it’s furthest depths, you’re so sexually frustrated that you’d rather have sex with a stranger (without your partner knowing – yet) than actually talk about your fantasies with your partner.

Isn’t it time to break away from the repression?