MODERN LOVESTYLES

With the holiday merriment behind us, many of us set our sites on the new year, and of course the consideration of new year’s resolutions…lose weight, quit smoking, drink less – most likely the same resolutions you set the year before, and the year before that.  All with good intentions, until of course, life normalizes and you find an excuse to toss the resolutions out the window and return to the blissful monotony of comfortable old habits.

This year, instead of focusing on the typical, hum drum new year’s resolutions…why not focus on something a little more fun, titillating and adventurous (not to mention, good exercise)….SEX!

So alas, I put together a three part series on my top resolutions to add more spice to your sex life…starting with “Top 10 naughty resolutions for 2009″…(insert drumroll here)

#10. Take sexy pictures of yourself and send them to your lover.

#9.  Perform a private lap dance for your partner…hell if Jamie Lee Curtis can do it for Arnold Schwarzenegger then so can you.

#8. Cook dinner for your partner while wearing something seductive.  For the record…gentlemen, if you haven’t already figured it out, most women LOVE a man who cooks.

#7. Visit a strip club with your partner.  Be sure to sit in Gyno row…and for god sakes, don’t heckle the dancers.  Just appreciate the sensual moves and atmosphere and maybe even have some fun sharing your fantasies.

#6. Have sex at an unexpected location (or time).  And no, I don’t just mean the kitchen table (although that’s a good start if you’re new sexplorers).  Take it out of the house…join the mile high club, back seat of the sports car, in the woods, etc.

#5.  Write your partner an erotic story, send it to them in an email and then act it out in real life.

#4. Surprise your partner by participating in their favourite pastime with them.  For example, plan a  private hockey party at home.  Order in pizza, beer, and even put on his team jersey (with only a pair of sexy panties of course).

#3. Set an actual date night for just the two of you at least 1-2 times/month and stick with it.

#2. Act out one naughty NEW fantasy for your partner each month.  If you’re looking for inspiration, check out one of my favourite websites: http://www.literotica.com.

And the number one Naughty New Year’s resolution

Treat your partner to a night of pure, sexual pleasure, exclusively for them.  It may seem a little unbalanced, but trust me…this will be a great investment in your sex life as it will empower them to completely explore their sexual god or goddess and let go of any inhibitions they may be harboring.   Even if they try to turn the tables and make it about you, do not let them…under any circumstances or you’ll be back to square one.  Plan at least a couple of hours of indulgence.   Start by relaxing them with a full body, aromatic oil massage or hot bubble bath complete with champagne and candles.   Have fun finding all their erogenous zones.  Kiss them from head to toe.  Blindfold them and feed them chocolate, strawberries and champagne.  Then pull out all the stops until they beg you for sweet release.  This will be a resolution that neither of you will ever forget…and of course, you’ll love it when your partner returns the favour…

Stay tuned for part II…”Top 10 Romantic Resolutions for 2009″.