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Ignorance is Bliss?

I have a friend who is single. She just happens to have genital herpes which can make dating a tad more complicated. Last week, she met a match on a well known dating website. After making an online connection, but before heading out on her first date, she very politely let him know that she is herpes positive so that he could make an informed decision before things got too out of hand.

I would like to hope that most would take the opportunity to get educated, or simply bow out gracefully. But this particular “Jack” exploded and called her every name in the book from slut to whore to everything in between. When I heard about his simple minded response, I was disgusted.

It’s no wonder that so many people are ashamed to talk about and deal with this issue. It’s no wonder that so many choose to simply ignore their situation and continue to contribute to the spread of herpes. It’s a wonder that my friend doesn’t just keep her mouth shut and take her chances in the future.

My friend should be commended! She is incredibly brave and is blazing the trail in open sexual communication. Herpes is one of many STIs out there and people need to talk about the facts in order to stop the spread of this disease and others like it.

Facts about Herpes
• At least one in four Americans will contract an STD at some point in their lives.
• One in five Americans has genital herpes (at least 80% are not aware they have it)
• Many people who have genital herpes are unaware that they have the virus because they have no symptoms, mild symptoms, or mistake the symptoms for other conditions such as jock itch, yeast infections, razor burn or allergic reactions to detergents.
• Genital herpes can be transmitted during vaginal, anal or oral sex even if the infected person has no open sores or any other symptoms of infection.
• Condom use reduces the risk of getting genital herpes and other STIs. However, when using a condom, remember that the exposed areas of skin are still unprotected. To prevent spread of the virus during oral sex use a condom on the penis and a condom cut lengthwise or a dental dam over the female genital area

I don’t know why I continue to be surprised at how ignorant and judgmental people can be when it comes to sexuality and sexual health. Stop judging and get educated. When it comes to sex, ignorance is only bliss until that morning you wake up with open sores on your naughty bits.

And for those of you living with STDs, there is still hope of finding your match. Check out positive singles – The best, largest, completely anonymous and most trusted personals network for STD singles and friends in the world. (More than blog worthy)

You’re not alone!

Sexercise? Fat Chance!

Well, the holidays are over, the New Year is upon us, and once again, I’m left with five extra pounds of buttertarts and shortbread cookies to work off my *ss.

This week, I’m scheduled to return to Bootcamp, but after a three week hiatus over the holidays, I’m looking forward to that 5am buzzer about as much as electroshock therapy.

So, in one last ditch effort to find a loophole before the alarm goes off, I just have to know if perhaps there is a chance to lose the holiday pounds by combining one of my favorite things, Sex, with my life long nemesis, Exercise!

With any luck, I can skip the blood, sweat and tears of my proven exercise regime – Bootcamp with a good old fashioned roll in the hay (less the “old fashioned” stuff, of course).

Turns out, Sexercise as it’s dubbed, comes with its share of the good, the bad and the ugly!

Take this Sexercise video for example – .  Definitely the “uglier” side of Sexercise.  It’s like watching a bad 70s porn combined with a “Jane Fonda workout video”.  It’s one train wreck that I just can’t tear myself away from.   I sure hope “Sexercise” gets better than this…

Ask and you shall receive…the 70s porn workout video is quickly counterbalanced with what could be a great article suggesting that I can lose up to 300 calories per hour through Sexercise.  Unfortunately, it seems to lack substance and any relevant sources, but at least I get to enjoy this much sexier, modern day Sexercise video.  I can only hope that I burn a few calories while bouncing in my chair to the video tunes.

And…more bad news I’m afraid…  My search for “sexercise” videos takes a turn for the worst when I stumble upon this new “Wiifit” sexercise video
followed by Tom Green’s “Senior Citizen’s Sexercise” Video.  Yes, I really did say Tom Green and apparently his mother is just as mortified as I am (albeit for different reasons).

Ok, time to find a more reliable source to support my loophole…

According to “Julie Peasgood”, I can burn up to 7500 calories/year just by having sex three times/week.  And, I can burn 150 calories/hour engaging in heavy kissing.

And to help me with my workouts, I can add in this handy toy the “Sexercise Me Sexercise Ball” – the first exercise ball where I can actually screw in a vibrator and “get on” while I “get off”.  Talk about killing two birds with one stone.  I definitely have to get me one of these.

And, according to “Fitnessmagazine.com”, I can strengthen my quads, hamstrings and abs while having sex.

Kerry McCloskey, author of “The Ultimate Sex Diet” says she lost 23 lbs in six months.  So if she can do it, I can do it right?

Haaaa…that 5am alarm clock is getting further away!

Until…noooooo….say it isn’t so…the number I’ve been searching for.  According to Calorie Lab’s very official sounding “Calorie’s burned during sex” study, I’m only burning about 34 calories/hour.  And that’s during VIGOROUS sex.   That’s nowhere near enough to replace the grueling burn I get during 1 hour of Bootcamp which is closer to around 500-600 calories.  Check it out for yourself…enter in your weight to find out how many calories you’re burning during sex.  Perhaps you’ll have better luck than me.

Well, so much for replacing Bootcamp with sex.  But it turns out that sex does have a lot of other great, healthful benefits.  Be sure to check out these last two sources for a bit of inspiration.

Sexercise…the hard facts

Top 10 reasons to have sex tonight

I guess I’m just going to have to do both!  Sweet Dreams!

An “orgasm a day” campaign directed at teens is a slippery slope

“An Orgasm a Day”  campaign promoted by the National Health Service of Britain is a great concept for adults, but a campaign directed at teenagers is a slippery slope.  Read full article and all the controversial comments here.

Durex Play Vibrations – sensational fun

Durex_Play_VibIf you’re looking to add a little spontaneous extra zip to your play time, check out the NEW play vibrations disposable vibrating pleasure ring by Durex.

The sugar and spice…
Like many off the shelf cock rings, the Durex Play Vibrations Pleasure ring is designed to keep him standing at attention for extended foreplay.  At the same time, the built in, mini-vibrating bullet can get her there just a little more quickly so that hopefully, you both arrive at the finish line at the same time.    According to hubby, he found the thin band and sleek design to be a very comfortable fit while the vibrating mini-bullet added to his pleasure.  For me, the mini-vibrating bullet added a little extra clitoral stimulation if it happened to land on just the right spot at just the right time.  But admittedly, it’s hard to enjoy the full benefits of a vibrating toy without more constant application and stimulation.

The combination of the cock ring for extended play and mini-vibe for enhanced pleasure  kept him on the edge until just the right moment when we could both climax at the same time, creating a more intimate and connected experience.

Unlike other similar products, the best thing about the Durex Play Vibrations Pleasure Ring is accessibility.  Picking up a pack is as simple as a trip down the condom aisle of your local Walmart store, making it a great way to add in a little spontaneous, last minute spice.  You can pick up a pack during your weekly shopping trip, or simply stop in on your way home from work and surprise your partner with a sensational little extra.

The advice…
This is a great little product that packs a powerful punch and comes from a brand you can trust.  But at approx. $13 bucks CDN, it’s pretty pricey, given the disposable nature and 20 minute lifespan. Not sure what this product costs to MFG, but if Durex can find a way to keep it under $8, they’ll have a hard time keeping it on the shelf.

Resolutions to add more spice to your sex life.

With the holiday merriment behind us, many of us set our sites on the new year, and of course the consideration of new year’s resolutions…lose weight, quit smoking, drink less – most likely the same resolutions you set the year before, and the year before that.  All with good intentions, until of course, life normalizes and you find an excuse to toss the resolutions out the window and return to the blissful monotony of comfortable old habits.

This year, instead of focusing on the typical, hum drum new year’s resolutions…why not focus on something a little more fun, titillating and adventurous (not to mention, good exercise)….SEX!

So alas, I put together a three part series on my top resolutions to add more spice to your sex life…starting with “Top 10 naughty resolutions for 2009″…(insert drumroll here)

#10. Take sexy pictures of yourself and send them to your lover.

#9.  Perform a private lap dance for your partner…hell if Jamie Lee Curtis can do it for Arnold Schwarzenegger then so can you.

#8. Cook dinner for your partner while wearing something seductive.  For the record…gentlemen, if you haven’t already figured it out, most women LOVE a man who cooks.

#7. Visit a strip club with your partner.  Be sure to sit in Gyno row…and for god sakes, don’t heckle the dancers.  Just appreciate the sensual moves and atmosphere and maybe even have some fun sharing your fantasies.

#6. Have sex at an unexpected location (or time).  And no, I don’t just mean the kitchen table (although that’s a good start if you’re new sexplorers).  Take it out of the house…join the mile high club, back seat of the sports car, in the woods, etc.

#5.  Write your partner an erotic story, send it to them in an email and then act it out in real life.

#4. Surprise your partner by participating in their favourite pastime with them.  For example, plan a  private hockey party at home.  Order in pizza, beer, and even put on his team jersey (with only a pair of sexy panties of course).

#3. Set an actual date night for just the two of you at least 1-2 times/month and stick with it.

#2. Act out one naughty NEW fantasy for your partner each month.  If you’re looking for inspiration, check out one of my favourite websites: http://www.literotica.com.

And the number one Naughty New Year’s resolution

Treat your partner to a night of pure, sexual pleasure, exclusively for them.  It may seem a little unbalanced, but trust me…this will be a great investment in your sex life as it will empower them to completely explore their sexual god or goddess and let go of any inhibitions they may be harboring.   Even if they try to turn the tables and make it about you, do not let them…under any circumstances or you’ll be back to square one.  Plan at least a couple of hours of indulgence.   Start by relaxing them with a full body, aromatic oil massage or hot bubble bath complete with champagne and candles.   Have fun finding all their erogenous zones.  Kiss them from head to toe.  Blindfold them and feed them chocolate, strawberries and champagne.  Then pull out all the stops until they beg you for sweet release.  This will be a resolution that neither of you will ever forget…and of course, you’ll love it when your partner returns the favour…

Stay tuned for part II…”Top 10 Romantic Resolutions for 2009″.

To Pierce or not to Pierce

To pierce or not to pierce…that is the question.  Every so often, I hit a bit of a milestone in my sensual journey.  I’ve been exposed to many things, but surprisingly, the concept of piercing my naughty bits has never actually crossed my mind…until now.

As of late, I’ve found myself noticing our lovely members showcasing very sexy body piercings…dangly, sparkly, basic barbells, colors, glow in the dark, charms, attachments and more.  They just seem so fun and pretty, and with all the options available, they’re the ultimate form of bling.  Plus, you can even wear them to the office hidden discreetly under your corporate suit serving as a titillating reminder of the naughty side of life. 

But as sexy as they seem, I have so many questions and concerns before taking the plunge.  So, I thought I would engage in a bit of good old fashioned reporting to get answers to some of my most “piercing” questions…

If you’ve pierced your naughty bits in the past, your feedback on the experience would be monumental.  And if you haven’t…why not?  And what do you think of piercing on your partner???

Enquiring minds (including mine) want to know…share your voice.  You never know, you may even start a new trend.

Here are a few questions I have to get the discussion started:

  • Will it hurt?
  • How long does it take to heal?
  • What do you think of piercings on your partner’s naughty bits, “Hot”, “Not, or “do they just get in the way”?
  • Does a pierced {blankety blank} actually make sex more fun or intensify the sensation?
  • Nipples, clit, tongue?  So many options…What are the pros and cons of each?
  • And while we’re at it,this discussion isn’t just one sided… it can’t hurt to get some feedback on male piercings too (you never know…maybe we can convince Adam to get one :-p ).

Next week, I’ll be sharing feedback from some of the industry professionals…and then, depending on my research…maybe I’ll even go “under the gun” and will take you all along for the virtual ride.

Thanks for joining me on this journey of discovery on “to pierce or not to pierce”.


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